Celebrating Eight Years and Several Transitions

Five Years
In February 2007 I in I started this website. What began as a site to inspire healing has transformed into a site which inspires both healing and travel adventures. This transition came about through my own transitions and healing.

A Metamorphosis
This website has gone through a metamorphosis as my grief healed and I created new dreams for my life. Last year my site crashed and I lost some posts and all my comments. The site had to be rebuilt and I lost all my google ranking as well. It was frustrating and maddening, but here we are today, growing and learning and I deeply hope, inspiring you to transform your own life and follow your dreams.

My Dream Realized
One of my dreams was to go on press trips for tourism destinations. I’ve now done that multiple times to destinations throughout the Caribbean and Mexico. It was fantastic to realize a long held dream of mine. Since I began this site it has been a dream to continue growing my readership. That is happening and I’m happy with this transformation.

Looking Ahead
Three years ago my goal was to publish a book. I am now in the final stages of the publishing process. Which brings me a great deal of happiness. In addition I am in the midst of writing another book, which is a funny book about my life transitions living overseas.
Transformations
My life has transformed through relationships, pets, new jobs, house sales, and the death of my parents. It has been, and continues to be quite a journey of adventure and at times grief and challenge. I have many blessings and this website is one of them. Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Lisa Overseas

All the Best,

Lisa

Avery’s Bucket List

Spring flowers

Today I learned about a little girl named Avery, who has spinal muscular atrophy. She was diagnosed with this when she was five months old. Her parents have created a blog called Avery’s Bucket List to share her adventures and her life with her family.

The blog is written from Avery’s perspective; her parents have created a bucket list of things they want Avery to experience in the 18 months she is expected to live. One of the things Avery’s mom and dad want to do is to educate others about SMA. Take time to visit Avery’s Bucket List. Avery’s Bucket List can also be found on Facebook and Twitter.

What Inspires You?

Anytime we are healing it’s important to have something in our life that inspires us to go on.

In times of healing it is helpful to focus our attention on what we love, on what brings joy to our heart and things that bring us comfort.

Inspiration Takes Many Forms
Inspiration is different for all of us. We find joy and comfort in individual ways. For some it is having a quiet space to think, pray, write or read. For others inspiration comes from time in nature; with walks in the park or time tinkering in the garden. For some it’s simply sitting on a porch enjoying the view and having a few minutes of time to regroup. Where do you find your inspiration?

Give Yourself Permission
As we heal we need to allow ourselves time to do what we love.

What Do You Love To Do?

Find your special activity and allow it to soothe you. Allow it to bring you pleasure.

 My Healing

As I healed my losses my heart began wishing for international travel. A year after my mom died I began the process to apply for international jobs. I’d lived overseas before my mom became ill and I knew it was where my heart would sing. I knew it was the one pleasure that would help to heal my grief, and help me accept my loss. I knew it would bring me joy again.

Having lost my mother when she was only 53 I knew how precious life was. I knew without a doubt how important it was to follow my dreams and pursue my passion. I knew my mom wanted me to be happy. I knew she wanted me to live a joyful life. It was time to step out of my comfort zone again and pursue my love of travel and international living.

Due to the nature of international teaching it is a process to acquire a position. I began that process in Nov 1998. My mom died the previous fall, on Oct 29th, 1997. I applied through two agencies and attended fairs in two different cities. At the time I went through the job fair process I lived on the island of Oahu in Hawaii. I accepted a job at the June job fair of Search Associates in Washington D.C. and left for Berlin, Germany just one month later in July, 1999.

A New Beginning

Lunch in Coastal Spain

Enjoying lunch with a friend and trying new foods in a foreign country is a passion of mine.

Healing My Mom’s Loss Took Years
It was a process. I saw a therapist weekly for six months. I’m not suggesting that doing what you love is going to take away your loss. It’s simply going to help you find your way through your loss.

Healing With Time Part Three: Heal Your Heart a Step at a Time

Finding a Way to Heal Your Heart Takes Time

Love

Trishhhh Flickr

Honestly, it takes allowing yourself to feel the hurt, the anger and the pain of your grief. The relationship is gone but, the grief takes time. You can only move forward when you’ve faced what you are feeling. The way to heal your heart is to look inside and examine what you’re heart and head are feeling. It sucks, I know. I’ve been there, a few times. Most recently two years ago this April.

Heal your Heart a Step at a Time
It was a long road of healing for me. You can read a couple of my previous posts detailing my experiences. What I can say with honesty is that with time you will heal your heart and be happy again.

I’m Happy Again
I’m now happy and looking forward to new life experiences, love and travel. It took time. I’m not going to sugar coat it. For the first year or more I couldn’t even consider dating. Now in the last few months I’ve begun to think I’d like to meet someone and embrace the joy of a relationship. So trust that you can heal your heart, I did.

Heal Your Heart in Small Steps, as You are Ready
There were tears, though fewer than I imagined. I was shell shocked for a long time and then I was angry.There was a lot of anger. There was deep loneliness and there was grief; grief at the loss of what I felt we had shared and built.

The Grief Takes Time
Expect your grieving to take time. You don’t heal a broken heart in a few weeks. Allow yourself time to process what has happened. My grief was particularly deep over the loss of a family. You see I had grown to love his two teenage children. His family had become mine too. I still love them and fortunately they still bless my life with their presence and love. Our relationship remains strong and intact. That is a blessing and a gift.

You Can’t Fake It
Children and teens know your heart. You aren’t going to bullshit them. They’ll see right through it. If you treat them right and you love them, they see it and they’ll feel it. I’m grateful for the relationships we three have built and I make it priority to maintain the relationships with love.

Heal Your Heart as You are Ready
Don’t rush, don’t fret that you should be over it, give yourself time. Honestly though I miss the closeness and comradarie of a relationship I knew I wasn’t ready for another yet. I’m not the type to hop from ship to ship on a journey. I’d rather enjoy one ship and savor it.

A New Beginning
I’m a woman in the prime of my life (40’s). I’d love to be having great sex right now. Yet, I want the closeness of sharing it with someone I care deeply about. For now I focus on adventures, travel and building my writing career. If you are working to heal your heart I recommend you take it slow. Be mindful of where your head is and the state of your heart. You want to heal; not create further gushing wounds.

You Will be Happy
Happiness is a state of mind, you will be happy again, if you choose to be. It’s your life, you can make it anything you want it to be. Being single offers you new options. For me it offers opportunities to travel and explore the world. I didn’t expect to do it alone again in my 40’s but I’m not sitting at home on the couch waiting for my life to start. I’m embracing it and I’m planning a journey to live abroad. Where better to enjoy life and love than another country where you can embrace life in another culture.